Holding onto the Past.
We've all been Past person who says "We need to meet up soon" but at the same time has no intention of going through with it. Why is that? Why try and hold onto the past but then never follow it up. It is an identity thing? Staying in touch with school friends giving an illusion and false sense that inside you are still young and youthful.
I am not sure what is it. But I've done it to people - that awkward moment when you bump into someone in town that you haven't seen in years, the silence and the same generic questions engulf the conversation. Only to try and rush the encounter short leaving it with a false plan to meet up. Why do we do this. Maybe it has something to do with disappointing people or not giving people a reason to think you are a fickle sham.
But it happen's we can't maintain friendships for ever. On that note there are friends that stand the test of time and last and this weekend I spent it with two pals that I went to secondary school with. One of them I have known since I was a toddler but still it's been 10 years since we left school and we still try to meet up once a year or so, catch up and check in.
This year we hit Birmingham, the festive markets and anywhere what would serve a few cheeky pints, it was good fun. We spent the majority of the weekend drinking beer, eating meat and chatting shit about the pass - or setting one friend up on Tinder to experience the world of online dating. (That was something)
It's moments like these that you realise how friendships work, the dynamics and cost. We hadn't seen each other for 18 months and it still felt like it was just the other day. We just gelled back into the same characters we were at school; The Brain, The Charm and The Butt of the joke. All parts of one person personified into a group.
It just made me think really, I have made many friends over the years but as time goes on you lose touch or just admit that things have changed and its not the same as it was and that isn't always a bad thing but it puts into perspective the friendships that have lasted and how they are cherished. I am sure there is something out there that says you can only have X amount of friends and friendships only last for 7 years. This isn't always the case but saying that every so often I love a good Facebook Cull - and I know alot of people that do this. Go through your friend list and start unfriending people you haven't spoken to in 6 months, or random people you met on nights out but never actual speak too - see how many you can get down to. I am currently on 80 friends. (I like the whole numbers)
Just makes you think, we can't hold on to everything from the past but there are a few things we can. Make the most of it and enjoy life, don't get bogged down with what people think and also trying to please people that you once knew 12 years ago - their opinions don't matter.
Peace
